Tough choices. Who hasn’t had them? And no, I’m not talking about which flavor of Doritos to get on a snack run (although, that normally does pose quite a challenge…), I’m referring to that moment when there was something you know you should have said no to; the invitation that you should have declined, and you didn’t, stuff like that. And depending on the situation, it either ended very badly, or you just managed to get away with it. As fun as it could have been (yes, some people live for the drama), wouldn’t it have been great to have just avoided it all together?
We are faced with choices every day, some of them trivial and others even life defining. Many people tend to take the easier route, or decide not to move at all. So why is taking the high road so difficult? Well for a number of reasons, but the biggest of them is fear. Fear of what other people will think, fear of the uncertainty that the tougher choices bring, from whatever angle you look at it, the root cause is usually fear.
So, to get straight to the point, how do we deal with this fear? Can we even deal with it to start with? Well, you’d have to dig into the bible to find the answer to that question. 1 John 4:18 reads, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment.” Perfect Love cast out all fear. And the only place we can find this perfect love is in Jesus, because we are made known that there is no greater love than the one that he has, the one that caused him to lay down his life for us. (John 15:13). So it really isn’t that hard. God loves us, and he always has our best interests at heart. All we have to do is trust in him a little bit more and the decisions that we think are hard will cease to be so. After all, he knows all about making hard decisions, so there’s no fault in making him the go-to guy when things become a little less than comfortable for us, right? Because he’s the expert. Hebrews 12:2, “Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of [our] faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Philippians 2: 5-8, “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: 7 But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: 8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.” It’s one thing to die for a spouse or a best friend, and it’s another thing to die for someone who insults or even rejects you, and even when he had the chance to summon the hosts of heaven to get him out of that situation, because of Love, he chose the narrow road. He chose the cross, and that alone is inspiration enough when dealing with the choices that pale in comparison.
So no matter what the choice is, as long as we remember that God is on our side, we can always trust him to back us. One thing it’s always important to remember is that in the future, the things that we may think are important now may not be as important then. So always have that 20/20 vision, that foresight, looking three, five, ten, even as far as fifty years ahead every time when making important decisions. What are your priorities? What are your goals? Is what you decide going to help you get there or take you back? And if you know you have to take the way with more resistance, always remember that at the end of it, it’s all going to be worth it. So you can hold your head high with confidence, even if it means not fitting in or being cool, getting laughed at and scorned, getting picked last for the team. God loves you, and because of this, you don’t have to fear what man, what this world can do to you. You can rest in the peace he provides, in the knowledge that he knows what hard choices are so he knows what he is doing in your life, and his promises that he has made known unto you. (Psalms 56:11; Psalms 118:6 -> Hebrews 13:5-6)
Take your time to meditate upon the following, as well as the preceding verses through the coming weeks. Allow them to really permeate through your mind, until your spirit is convinced that you are Loved by God, that his Love is in your heart, and that no matter what happens, things are always going to work in your favor.
ᴥ 1 John 4:16-17; 1 John 4:9-10;
ᴥ 1 John 3:1
ᴥ Romans 5:5; Galatians 5:22
ᴥ Romans 8:28; 1 Corinthians 2:9;
ᴥ 2 Timothy 1:7
ᴥ Romans 8:35-39
Till we meet next, and always remember, the brave are not forgotten. Be strong an very courageous.